STEP 7: Work out whether your goal is achievable upfront
How does your goal fit into the context of your other goals and other priorities in life? What will you have to say no to, in order to say yes to the things that will help you achieve what you want? And are you prepared to pay that price? If you don’t ask these questions upfront, you could find yourself in trouble. It’s no good setting a goal that requires you to work long hours each day if you also have the priority of being available to your family and kids. In this case, actualising one goal will only compromise and interfere with the other.
STEP 8: Make a decision and commit to it
A decision isn’t a maybe – or an “I’d like to” or an “I might”. Those are preferences. Decision is a Latin word that translates to literally a “cutting off” – which means when you make a decision you are cutting yourself off from every other possibility. When you say yes to your outcome, you are simultaneously saying no to everything else. Often, the hardest part of a goal is simply making the decision to say YES to it, and NO to everything else. If you do not decide to go for it and commit to it, you are essentially deciding not to.
“How easily we accept that something can change us and how difficult it is for us to accept that we can change Something.”
‘Pie-crustanation’ towards ‘Frosty icing’ towards ‘Keto Energy’ towards ‘Meggavation’
‘Procrastination’ – ‘Frustration’ – ‘Energy’ – ‘Motivation’
STEP 9: Break your big goal into digestible chunks
The best changes are the ones you can actually execute. So make that execution easier by metaphorically eating a mouthful at a time, rather than biting off more than you can chew. Increasing your efforts by 100% in one go and trying to maintain that is much harder than making 5% incremental increases of effort over a period of time. People often overestimate what they can achieve in one week (or one year), and underestimate what they can achieve in ten weeks (or ten years). If you aren’t sure what you should bite off first, then don’t panic. This is a positive realisation – answering that question just became your first mouthful.
“Do you wish to rise? Begin by descending. You plan a tower that will pierce the clouds? Lay first the foundation of humility”. St Augustine.
Purpose – What is your goal? Health, Weight, Fitness or Self-regulation.
Observe – How will that make you feel? Associate with a compelling picture of you.
Stay – Present in the moment – small steps without expectation.
Imagine – How excited are you about this goal? Secondary gains
Timescale – Give yourself space to achieve. Be Kind and Be Grateful and most importantly – Be you
Insight – Recognise who you are without the Judgement – get out of your own way.
Value – How will you recognise progress without self-sabotage.
Engage – What have I achieved, What I did to achieve it, What am I now committed to